{"id":1198,"date":"2020-12-24T15:31:51","date_gmt":"2020-12-24T21:31:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging2.butchrenfroe.com\/?p=1198"},"modified":"2020-12-24T15:31:51","modified_gmt":"2020-12-24T21:31:51","slug":"grudges-are-heavy-things","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/butchrenfroe.com\/index.php\/2020\/12\/24\/grudges-are-heavy-things\/","title":{"rendered":"Grudges Are Heavy Things"},"content":{"rendered":"

I know of an estranged mother and daughter. I have an idea about what caused the estrangement, but not all the particulars. Honestly, the particulars really are not all important to my point.<\/p>\n

My point is this: Grudges are heavy things. They weigh on the soul, especially on the grudge holder’s.<\/p>\n

I have never actually met the daughter in this situation, but If I were to speak to the young lady who has the grudge against her mother, I would make the following points:<\/p>\n

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  1. You may feel you have every right to be angry. They may have hurt you. Forgive anyway.<\/li>\n
  2. You or your mother are not ever guaranteed tomorrow, or the next minute even.\u00a0 Forgive now.<\/li>\n
  3. You don’t have to forget what happened, but the past cannot be changed. Forgive. Talk. Find a way forward.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    A fellow I know wrote a song with following lyrics:<\/p>\n

    “Nothing’s worth losing<\/em>
    \nEspecially the chance to make it right<\/em><\/p>\n

    And I know that we’re gonna be fine<\/em>
    \nAnd the tattooed mistakes<\/em>
    \nAre gonna fade over time<\/em>
    \nAs long as we live, time passes by<\/em>
    \nAnd we won’t get it back when we die”<\/em><\/p>\n

    Talk to your momma.<\/p>\n

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    I know of an estranged mother and daughter. I have an idea about what caused the estrangement, but not all the particulars. Honestly, the particulars really are not all important to my point. My point is this: Grudges are heavy things. They weigh on the soul, especially on the grudge holder’s. I have never actually […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1198","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-blog"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/butchrenfroe.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1198","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/butchrenfroe.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/butchrenfroe.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/butchrenfroe.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/butchrenfroe.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1198"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/butchrenfroe.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1198\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/butchrenfroe.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1198"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/butchrenfroe.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1198"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/butchrenfroe.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1198"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}